LEADER 03547cam 2200409 i 4500001 on1370926281 003 OCoLC 005 20231005143935.5 008 230228s2023 nju e b 001 0 eng d 020 9780691223193 |q(hardcover) 020 069122319X |q(hardcover) 020 |z9780691230474 |qebook 035 (Sirsi) 40031991365 035 40031991365 035 (OCoLC)1370926281 040 YDX |beng |erda |cYDX |dUKMGB |dOCLCQ |dJCX |dLE# |dIOU |dVP@ |dHQC |dSLV |dOI6 |dUtOrBLW 050 4 BF637.F67 |bC54 2023 082 04 155.92 |223 100 1 Cherry, Myisha V., |eauthor. |=^A1431336 245 10 Failures of forgiveness : |bwhat we get wrong and how to do better / |cMyisha Cherry. 264 1 Princeton, New Jersey : |bPrinceton University Press, |c[2023] 264 4 |c©2023 300 viii, 227 pages ; |c22 cm 336 text |btxt |2rdacontent 337 unmediated |bn |2rdamedia 338 volume |bnc |2rdacarrier 504 Includes bibliographical references and index. 520 "Sages from Cicero to Oprah have told us that forgiveness requires us to let go of negative emotions and that it has a unique power to heal our wounds. In Failures of Forgiveness, Myisha Cherry argues that these beliefs couldn't be more wrong--and that the ways we think about and use forgiveness, personally and as a society, can often do more harm than good. She presents a new and healthier understanding of forgiveness--one that will give us a better chance to recover from wrongdoing and move toward 'radical repair.' Cherry began exploring forgiveness after some relatives of the victims of the mass shooting at Emanuel A.M.E. Church in Charleston, South Carolina, forgave what seemed unforgiveable. She was troubled that many observers appeared to be more inspired by these acts of forgiveness than they were motivated to confront the racial hatred that led to the killings. That is a big mistake, Cherry argues. Forgiveness isn't magic. We can forgive and still be angry, there can be good reasons not to forgive, and forgiving a wrong without tackling its roots solves nothing. Examining how forgiveness can go wrong in families, between friends, at work, and in the media, politics, and beyond, Cherry addresses forgiveness and race, canceling versus forgiving, self-forgiveness, and more. She takes the burden of forgiveness off those who have been wronged and offers guidance both to those deciding whether and how to forgive and those seeking forgiveness. By showing us how to do forgiveness better, Failures of Forgiveness promises to transform how we deal with wrongdoing in our lives, opening a new path to true healing and reconciliation"-- |cPublisher's description. 505 0 Introduction: Forgiveness and magical thinking -- What to expect when you are expecting forgiveness -- Forgivers and withholders -- Making a good ask -- Forgiveness as political project -- When race matters -- Home improvement -- The business of forgiveness -- Canceling versus forgiving -- Forgiving yourself -- Radical repair: With or without forgiveness -- Conclusion: Doing forgiveness better. 650 0 Forgiveness |xPhilosophy. |=^A238842 650 0 Restorative justice. |=^A454801 776 08 |iebook version : |z9780691230474 949 |i30372017707941 |ojjlm 960 |o1 |s27.95 |tJoyner48 |uJAPP |zUSD 596 1 998 6281578