| Abstract |
Men often enter couples therapy saddled with isolating reputations. They are oftentimes described - and describe themselves - as not understanding the experience of their partners, as not interested in talking, and as not connected.In this video, the practice of Internalized Other Interviewing with men is discussed and demonstrated. Internalized Other Interviewing was developed by Karl Tomm as a way to facilitate more relational ways of understanding, and to help clients cultivate their awareness of the experience of others. This other-awareness is not typically part of traditional gender training for men within patriarchal culture, and thus is very useful where there is interpersonal conflict or disconnection. This therapeutic practice invariably reveals that men do in fact understand more about their partners than they first thought. As a result, this kind of interviewing results in greater connection, intimacy, and relational justice for many men and their partners. |
